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How to deal with noisy neighbors?

Post by motherjuggs&speed » Fri Apr 17, 2020 3:02 am

I seem to be the only lifter who hates noise so maybe none of you will relate to this but here goes. In my apartment complex my next door neighbor is super loud. She likes to stand in front of her apartment having super loud conversations. This in addition to leaving her door open while playing music really loud, and also slamming her door. She is at least a little crazy based on our few brief interactions but not overtly hostile, although of course making all this noise is hostile. One problem I have is that I don't want to induce her to start talking to me every time she sees me. I never know the right way to deal with this. More accurately, the right way to be to confront her rudely and aggressively to make it clear what a bad person she is, but I would end up being bothered by that more than she would since I hate scenes like that.

I never know what to do in these situations. Noisy people know they're noisy and it's not like she doesn't realize that she has three other apartments close to hers. I also don't like the idea of asking people to stop doing what they shouldn't be doing in the first place. I asked the apartment manager about another guy's noise and he said the management won't do anything, to call the cops if it's loud after 11. So I seem kind of stuck.

How do you guys deal with situations like this?

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Re: How to deal with noisy neighbors?

Post by Turdacious » Fri Apr 17, 2020 3:16 am

1. Figure out the hours when you really want quiet, and ask her to be quiet during those hours. IMO most people don't think about their noise.
2. Use noise cancelling headphones (Bose QuietComfort plug ins) or free white noise app on your phone
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Re: How to deal with noisy neighbors?

Post by Fat Cat » Fri Apr 17, 2020 5:31 pm

Push her down the stairs.
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Re: How to deal with noisy neighbors?

Post by motherjuggs&speed » Fri Apr 17, 2020 6:10 pm

Don't you think I thought of that? Alas, we live on the ground floor.

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Re: How to deal with noisy neighbors?

Post by Shafpocalypse Now » Fri Apr 17, 2020 6:35 pm

Can you start fucking her?

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Re: How to deal with noisy neighbors?

Post by Alfred_E._Neuman » Fri Apr 17, 2020 7:24 pm

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Don't you think I thought of that? Alas, we live on the ground floor.
How good is the fire wall between your apartments?
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Re: How to deal with noisy neighbors?

Post by Bennyonesix1 » Fri Apr 17, 2020 10:24 pm

Move.

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Post by Fat Cat » Fri Apr 17, 2020 10:39 pm

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Re: How to deal with noisy neighbors?

Post by syaigh » Sat Apr 18, 2020 1:53 am

Rats.
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Re: How to deal with noisy neighbors?

Post by Turdacious » Sat Apr 18, 2020 11:11 am

Confront her passive-aggressively by regularly setting off your fire alarm.
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Re: How to deal with noisy neighbors?

Post by Gav » Sat Apr 18, 2020 7:58 pm

I had/have the same problem. Some irritating fuck’s garden backs onto mine. Loudest voice in the world, paces up and down on the phone and everyone hears his conversations. His kids whine like fuck.
They had a party in the garden that started at lunch with tons of adults and kids. The music was driving me nuts because it was all Taylor Swift and suchlike. It got to about 10:30 at night and I went out on the balcony and shouted as loud as I could ’turn the music off NOW and go inside’. They did instantly and other neighbours came on their balconies and applauded.
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Re: How to deal with noisy neighbors?

Post by Alfred_E._Neuman » Sat Apr 18, 2020 8:25 pm

I've always found the sound of a Remmington 870 or Mossberg 500 racking a 12 gauge shell accomplishes the same thing and I don't have to raise my voice.
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Re: How to deal with noisy neighbors?

Post by nafod » Sat Apr 18, 2020 9:40 pm

If she is not Norwegian, leave rotting fish outside her door.
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Re: How to deal with noisy neighbors?

Post by newguy » Sun Apr 19, 2020 1:50 am

If she is consistent with her times, right before she goes outside open your doors and windows and turn on porn as loud as you can.

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Re: How to deal with noisy neighbors?

Post by Grandpa's Spells » Mon Apr 20, 2020 3:11 pm

She likes to stand in front of her apartment having super loud conversations. This in addition to leaving her door open while playing music really loud, and also slamming her door.
I've been through this a couple times, it was worse in office space. She's very likely hard of hearing.
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Re: How to deal with noisy neighbors?

Post by Bram » Wed Apr 22, 2020 9:15 pm

My upstairs neighbor was smoking, and the way the ventilation works the venting system goes right into my apartment.

I left him a nice note and it's never happened again.

Try being nice and direct.

Haha, nice and direct doesn't always work, but it's a good place to start.
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Re: How to deal with noisy neighbors?

Post by seeahill » Wed Apr 22, 2020 11:23 pm

Neighbor fights destroy your at-home equanimity.

Figure out how to do it as neighbors. Maybe not friends, but neighbors. Otherwise, you are going to have to figure out ways to annoy her so badly she leaves. Meanwhile, she will be using the same strategy. Lose-lose.
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Re: How to deal with noisy neighbors?

Post by terra » Wed May 06, 2020 12:53 am

It's easy to put devil horns on 'the other' and build things like this up. We all do it.
It's only taken forty something years... But I''ve eventually learned to befriend the person, where possible, and when rapport is established, simply let them know what's going on for you... Heck, depending on how long you plan to be there, you can even take a small gift. Often people aren't actual cunts, they're just oblivious to their behaviour.

The other way is to lead by example... I'm fairly careful to not be noisy. BUT, I have apologised to neighbours "for making any noise" the following day after arriving home and unpacking the car super late etc etc. This started as a genuine concern and apology, but I realised it lets others know I consider it important to be quite for neighbours... Sure enough. They start apologising back to me when they think they are 'noisy', or had tradesmen around etc etc.

If these strategies don't work, you can write up an official sounding, but again polite, letter... Print off ten or so, and stick them under the doors of all your neighbours. I've done that when people were making it difficult to access garages by parking where they shouldn't. It was a few people doing it, and was effecting a few of us. There was an actual fine involved for incorrect parking, so it was an easy fix to make it look like an official reminder.

But you could still try the letter thing, something like: "A quick reminder to all occupants. The by-laws of this property are in place to maximise the enjoyment of our living spaces. One of the by-laws states "Noise in all common area's including stairwells and hallways be kept to a minimum (*find the actual by-law*)". We thank you for your consideration of others with ensuring we can share a peaceful living environment, and for your understanding in this matter Blah blah blah".

Anyhow. Being aggro should really be the last line of action. As said above, you have to live there. Best to get what you want through peaceful means.
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Re: How to deal with noisy neighbors?

Post by Kenny X » Wed May 06, 2020 9:08 pm

I suppose you could kill them and eat them, I mean...

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Re: How to deal with noisy neighbors?

Post by Fat Cat » Wed May 06, 2020 9:36 pm

Wow Kenny where the fuck you been?
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Re: How to deal with noisy neighbors?

Post by Kenny X » Wed May 06, 2020 11:28 pm

Hey buddy! Just down here on the bayou, training and raising the twins and being an all-around family man!

How’ve you been!?

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Re: How to deal with noisy neighbors?

Post by Fat Cat » Wed May 06, 2020 11:49 pm

Same like you brah, absorbed in the day to day of family life. But, we're trying to keep this Mongolian yak herding forum open for the hardcore who simply can't be moderated by, well, anything.
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Re: How to deal with noisy neighbors?

Post by Kenny X » Thu May 07, 2020 1:16 am

Fat Cat wrote:
Wed May 06, 2020 11:49 pm
Same like you brah, absorbed in the day to day of family life. But, we're trying to keep this Mongolian yak herding forum open for the hardcore who simply can't be moderated by, well, anything.
That’s much appreciated, believe me.

And as to family life, it does indeed absorb you! Oh man. LOL We put the twins down an hour ago and they’re still cutting up back there. The little girl child is turning summersalts in her crib and her brother is egging her on.

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Re: How to deal with noisy neighbors?

Post by Fat Cat » Thu May 07, 2020 1:52 am

LOL nice. Quick make a drink before you pass out!
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Re: How to deal with noisy neighbors?

Post by Gene » Sat May 09, 2020 3:19 pm

motherjuggs&speed wrote:
Fri Apr 17, 2020 3:02 am
In my apartment complex my next door neighbor is super loud. She likes to stand in front of her apartment having super loud conversations. This in addition to leaving her door open while playing music really loud, and also slamming her door.

How do you guys deal with situations like this?
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