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bennyonesix wrote:

Protobuilder wrote:What browser were you using?

Terry B wrote:Who are you??

Beer Jew wrote:Syaigh, thanks for that.

The person in question is my wife, and although she has severe OCD (can't shower/sleep etc. if the flat isn't spotless), has a host of other issues as well including depression. She still holds on to a huge amount of resentment from her childhood against her parents and siblings, although weirdly gets on well with all of them and is very attached to them.

It affects her everyday life, and obviously affects mine as well. Every now and again there'll be a flash of logic, and she'll say to me "I'm going to stop blaming x and focus on achieving y instead", but that's a rarity, and forgotten as soon as it's been said. When things don't go perfectly, she'll blame anything but herself, and shut down. She's certainly made progress since we've been married, but I can't see her ever being truly happy and enjoying life and feeling accomplished, until she teaches herself how to think and how to view the world through a different lens.

Protobuilder wrote:

Beer Jew wrote:Syaigh, thanks for that.

The person in question is my wife, and although she has severe OCD (can't shower/sleep etc. if the flat isn't spotless), has a host of other issues as well including depression. She still holds on to a huge amount of resentment from her childhood against her parents and siblings, although weirdly gets on well with all of them and is very attached to them.

It affects her everyday life, and obviously affects mine as well. Every now and again there'll be a flash of logic, and she'll say to me "I'm going to stop blaming x and focus on achieving y instead", but that's a rarity, and forgotten as soon as it's been said. When things don't go perfectly, she'll blame anything but herself, and shut down. She's certainly made progress since we've been married, but I can't see her ever being truly happy and enjoying life and feeling accomplished, until she teaches herself how to think and how to view the world through a different lens.

I didn't realize this was a serious thread until now.

I did some CBT when I was younger and it was effective in conjunction with low dose meds which the doctor was clear from the beginning were simply to help out until the therapy did its thing. I walked out of my initial appointment with a prescription of several books to read which led me to mindfulness which led to zen which led to grad work in a related area (one adviser was a RET guy, another a traditional psychotherapist and the other a meditation teacher). Constructive Living and Morita Therapy are along the same lines. Honestly, I feel that most any approach can work but not all do for all people.

bennyonesix wrote:He wasn't exactly hiding his light under a bushel if you know what I mean proto.